Dear Jack,
I am 14 years old and have been dating my boyfriend Jason for three months. The problem I’m having is he has recently gotten a lot closer to my best friend. He flirts with her right in front of me. He winks at her, calls her pretty and asks her for random hugs, not like a hello or good-bye hug. The worst part is my best friend plays along even though she knows how much I like him. I don’t know whether to confront my friend or my boyfriend. What should I do?
LeAnn
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Dear LeAnn,
That’s a very tough problem you are having. Your boyfriend and best friend are probably some of the most important people in your life and they are not being respectful of your feelings. Sometimes we might think people know how we feel when they don’t. I would talk to each one of them. Your best friend needs to know how hurtful it is when Jason flirts with her and she plays along. If she is truly your friend, she will stop. If not, then she isn’t a friend. The same goes for Jason. Let him know how you feel about his behavior and that you want it to stop. Again, if he cares about you he will listen, understand and follow through. If not, it’s time to move on. I know that may not be what you want to hear, but you deserve to be treated with respect. If you continue to be with someone who does not listen to you, hear what you have to say and understand, then things will likely get worse in the future.
Please write back and let me know how things went. You can also contact my mom, Toni Richmond at TRichmond@cacjc.org.
Jack
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